Episodes

19: Failures

Failure is inevitable. The only way to avoid it is by doing nothing and saying nothing. Join Crina and Kirsten as they explore their own relationship to failure and explore ways to manage the emotions around this big subject.

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In this episode of Crina and Kirsten Get to Work, our gals discuss failure in the workplace. Nobody likes failure but it is a reality in every workplace and for every worker. Failure prevents a lot of us challenging ourselves and taking the next step. How do you feel about failure and how does it feel when you fail? What do you worry about? And why does it feel so bad? Crina and Kirsten discuss these questions in an introduction to failure.

The studies show that women are punished more severely for mistakes than men – in other words making a mistake is more consequential if you are a woman.

Failures in the workplace can be broken into three categories – 1 – preventable failures in complex system – otherwise known as human error; 2 unavoidable failures in complex systems; 3 – error at the frontier where things are unknown. Each type of error has different consequences and results in different learning and that is the most important part of failure in the workplace, the ability to learn and grow – if you can hold on through the embarrassment, shame and whatever else comes your way.

Crina and Kirsten discuss the dos and don’ts of failure. Taking ownership and telling the truth are great places to start after a failure. It is important to get help from others too.

And it’s important not to forget how to take care of ourselves after a failure – don’t wallow in your despair, but make some time to be kind and gentle with yourself – it will help you solve problems – and just make you feel better.

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18: How to Combat Miscommunication and Negative Assumptions

In order to find joy, meaning and ease at work you need to communicate clearly and interpret information accurately. This requires focus, curiosity and a willingness to challenge the stories you tell yourself.

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In this episode of Crina and Kirsten Get to Work, we tackle the many ways that miscommunication happens and what you can do about it. If you’re a direct communicator like Crina, people may assume that there is some implicit message in what you are saying. They might hear you say one thing, but believe another. Miscommunication can also happen when the listener isn’t actually listening or makes incorrect assumptions about what is “really” being said. Miscommunication is also very common when we fail to listen fully because we’re waiting to talk or waiting to make our point. Finally, we all filter what is being said through our own unique experiences and stories. Many times people hear something that is actually much different than what was intended because they can’t be objective about the information that’s delivered.

Crina and Kirsten offer a few tips to combat miscommunication, starting with the elimination of assumptions. When you hear something that doesn’t sit well with you, do yourself a favor and check in. Ask that person to restate what they just said so that you can be sure you heard it accurately. If you’re using email as your primary mode of communication, practice reading that unsettling email a different way. It’s also great to develop active listening skills that make use of curiosity and kindness. Finally, when you’re the one doing the talking, make sure you’re clear about what you want to say and use clear language when delivering information.

Remember that in order to find joy, meaning and ease at work, you need to get control of how you communicate and the way you interpret what other people are saying and writing.

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8 Causes of Miscommunication and Misunderstanding

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17: Lead Like a Girl

Crina and Kirsten are kicking a gender bias to the curb and talking about how women make amazing leaders. In fact, according to a recent study, women score statistically higher than men in almost every single leadership characteristic.

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Crina and Kirsten are both just back from fabulous adventures and share their amazing experiences with listeners before they launch into this shows meaty topic! Both women are deeply committed to leadership – fostering those talents and skills in themselves and others – especially women. 

This show is for EVERYONE. Our hosts believe we all lead from where we are. They discuss the leadership capabilities surveyed in a Harvard Business Review article by Jack Zenger and Joseph Folkman, Women Score Higher than Men in Most Leadership Skills. What a great backdrop – that women are perceived by their co-workers having the highest rated leadership capabilities – for us to discuss leadership qualities and consider which ones we have and which ones we want to develop in ourselves. 

Our hosts encourage each other and the listener to see themselves as a leader and to develop those capabilities. 

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Research: Women Score Higher Than Men in Most Leadership Skills

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16: Say, ‘No’ and Do Less

Time management is a practice. It takes vigilance and commitment to protect your valuable time from competing responsibilities. Check out this episode to hear how Crina and Kirsten approach their work and their commitments in their busy lives.

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Following on the heels of episode 11, The Crushing Burden, Crina and Kirsten continue their exploration of the things we juggle as professional, working woman In this episode, Crina and Kirsten turn to the practical while exploring how they each manage their time, how their values dictate their priorities, and where they spend their time.

Kirsten checks in about her work to minimize her commitments while honoring her values. She talks about how she struggles to juggle responsibilities from her job, community, family and friends. Crina explores how her approach to time management is different from Kirsten’s and likely a product of her
willingness to say, “no.”

In addition to exploring their own styles, they also offer tips and tricks and strategies to help listeners get a grip on their own schedules. For instance, Kirsten recommends eating your big hairy frog first and Crina encourages listeners to choose themselves first. As always, Crina and Kirsten get real about the need to say, “no.”

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Productivity Isn’t About Time Management. It’s About Attention Management.

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15: Gratitude and Praise Will Change Your Work Life

Let’s face it, feeling good and getting acknowledged feels good. When someone notices that you worked hard, did something amazing, pushed through a barrier or overcome a challenge, it makes you feel motivated to do more. Unfortunately, the vast majority of workers report that they have not received positive feedback about their work performance in the last year! Join us as we explore how to change this phenomenon while using praise and gratitude to create ease and joy at work.

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In this episode of Crina and Kirsten Get to Work, Crina and Kirsten talk about how critical it is to have gratitude and praise in the workplace. In fact, most workers site praise and meaning as one of the most important elements of job satisfaction.  Let’s face it, feeling good and getting acknowledged feels good.  When someone notices that you worked hard, did something amazing, pushed through a barrier or overcome a challenge, it makes us feel motivated to do more.  

Unfortunately, the vast majority of workers report that they have not received positive feedback about their work performance. Say it ain’t so!! If this is your work culture, there are things you can do to change it for yourself, your coworkers and your organizational culture. Gratitude is not only good for the receiver, but also for the giver.

If you want to start giving praise and sharing gratitude there are a few keys to be successful.  Be sure that you are giving praise in a way that works for the listener.  Some people like to hear feedback in public, some people prefer private praise, some of us like to see positive comments in writing and others value a gift or a pat on the back.  Positive comments are also more meaningful if they are specific and timely.

It’s also important to know yourself and know how you like to receive feedback.  If you’re like Crina, you might even try asking your employer for what you want. 

In addition to seeking external gratification, Crina and Kirsten remind listeners to own their power and accomplishments. Remember that you are awesome!

Listen in – you’ll be grateful!

LINKS

Why Appreciation Matters So Much

The Psychological Effects of Workplace Appreciation and Gratitude

14 Health benefits of Practicing Gratitude According to Science

Power Your Tribe Book

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14: Your Money AND Your Life

Some people think money equals power, others think it’s the root of all evil and some see it as a something to save and protect. What are the stories you tell yourself about money? Are you spending, saving or investing? Learn how your money script can dictate the way you think about that paycheck!

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Some people say that sex and money is where it all happens for us and where we meet up with our “stuff.”  Since Crina and Kirsten talk about work, they focus this episode MONEY.  What is your philosophy about money?  What is your money script – or what story do you tell yourself about money?  Are you someone who saves every penny or are you comfortable spending? Do you think money equals power? Is it the root of all evil or does it define you and your success? 

Crina and Kirsten also discuss how women are perceived as financial decision makers, what women think about their standard of living, investments and retirement.  

 Listen in as Crina and Kirsten tackle these issues head on while exploring their own relationships with money.

LINKS

https://www.yourmentalwealthadvisors.com/money-scripts

https://www.themuse.com/advice/5-myths-we-believe-about-women-money

https://archive.news.iastate.edu/news/2006/nov/genderinvest.shtml

https://www.govtrack.us/congress/bills/111/s181

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13: Dealing With Assholes

We just want everyone to be kind to each other, but unfortunately that’s not always the case! In fact people are overtly and covertly mean and rude to each other all the time. The good news is that you don’t need to put up with it. Join us as we explore your options for dealing with assholes at work.

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On Crina and Kirsten Get to Work, our dynamic duo talk about those folks who behave in a way that is out of line, beyond the pale and absolutely unacceptable – you know, assholes.  Crina shares a recent experience where she and her son encountered a terribly mean woman who was the motivation for this show.  While not in the workplace, this story launches our hosts into a discussion of these kinds of behaviors in the workplace and what you can do about it.  And you have to have a few laughs about this frustrating folks.

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LINKS

Our 6 Must Reads for Cutting Through Conflict and Tough Conversations (Click Here)

How to Deal with a Mean Colleague (Click Here)

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12: How to Rock Your Job

Crina and Kirsten put on their boss hats and share all the traits they value in an employee. Spoiler alert: the best employees are self aware and lovely to be around!

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In this episode of Crina and Kirsten Get to Work, hosts Crina and Kirsten answer a simple question: what makes a good employee? Previously, they talked about how important it is for employees to identify and ask for those things that they need (or want) to make work meaningful, joyous, and fulfilling. As they discussed the importance of making those requests, one listener was intrigued to know whether there were other qualities that make a desirable worker. If you are asking yourself why another employee is having a better work experience than you are, it may be good to take Crina’s and Kirsten’s advice.

Crina and Kirsten start with the basics of being a great employee: show up on time, do the work you were hired to do, be engaged and be accountable. Then, they circle back to the importance of asking for things that you need to do your job and to do it well. More specifically, Crina and Kirsten call on employees to be truthful in their requests, as well as to pose potential solutions to any problems presented. In doing these things, you help your employer know how to ensure a satisfying work relationship with you. Other qualities a great employee has are positivity, appropriate curiosity, and the ability to keep work and personal life separate.

Our hosts also discuss the employer’s’ role in making a positive work environment for their direct reports. Employers should be intentional in finding out what their employees need. It is their responsibility to make space and time for their employees to express their concerns and   desires. Employers should They also must be secure and flexible to provide the opportunity for employees to come to creative solutions on their own.  Crina and Kirsten want women in the workplace to show up with their best selves – and ideally in a place where the employer or manager appreciates and encourages full participation.

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11: The Crushing Burden: Managing Work, Guilt and Competing Responsibilities

It’s time to release yourself from the crushing burden of guilt as you juggle work, family and community.

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In this episode of the Crina and Kirsten Get to Workpodcast, hosts Crina and Kirsten discuss “the crushing burden” that often weighs on working women as they find themselves navigating work responsibilities along with community and caregiving responsibilities. They discuss the way in which this burden tends to impact women in particular, who often have to balance work life with such things as the needs of children and spouses, volunteering, and caring for aging parents. They also address their own experiences of schedules filled with various obligations and responsibilities.

After explaining what the crushing burden is, Crina and Kirsten talk about emotions associated with the burden. They focus first (and primarily) on guilt, which is a common feeling  experienced in connection with both the challenge of juggling many responsibilities and the choices made as women try to navigate their responsibilities.  Guilt, they note, involves a sense of offense and of failing to meet an expectation. It’s distinct from disappointment, anger, and frustration, and is also a socially acceptable emotion, particularly for women.  Rather than guilt, some women experience depression and/or anxiety because of the crushing burden.  The emotions are not as social acceptable.

Having diagnosed and examined some of the emotional reactions women often have to the challenge, Crina and Kirsten turn to the response they hope to encourage in their listeners. They desire to see women move beyond feelings of guilt, anxiety and depression, and to release themselves from the expectation that they are everything to everybody, and choose to care well for themselves at least as well as they care for others. Crina, who does not struggle with guilt in the same way Kirsten does, provides insight on how to live without guilt. She and Crina discuss the value of personal well being, and consider the concept of obligations. They ultimately conclude that, while a woman should by no means abandon all responsibility, she should recognize that the obligation to self is as important if not more important than other obligations. So, they advise, treat yourself as well as you treat others.

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10: How To Get What You Want

You will be more successful if you identify and ask for what you want. And when you articulate your needs, you give your boss an opportunity to keep you happy and retain you as an employee. Focus on your needs, get comfortable asking and find more meaning on the job.

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In this episode of the Crina and Kirsten Get to Work podcast, hosts Crina and Kirsten discuss how women can get what they want in the workplace.  They suggest starting by getting clear about what you want by determining what they want and getting ready to ask for it in the most effective way negotiating for it.  They acknowledge that women’s voices are often not well represented or heard. Thus, women in the workplace will likely need to take clear, tenacious, confident steps in order to make their work experiences as satisfying, joyful, and rich as they desire them to be.

Crina and Kirsten discuss what must happen before a woman asks for change in her workplace; the woman must first determine what it is that you she wants.  Kirsten believes She should honor  her own preferences.  Be clear and pursue clarity about them, and know that asking for what she wants will provide her employer with the opportunity to create loyalty, retention, and longevity. This will also allow her employer to build business efficiency in managing well the valuable human resources of the company.  

What sorts of things can a woman ask for?  She can ask for a raise, a job title or description change, more or different benefits, a flexible schedule, training, ways to seek advancement  opportunities, physical modifications to the work space, challenging assignments and even such less tangible things as the consideration of her opinion and things that will make her feel effective safe at work.

After she has settled on what she wants, a woman should spend some time thinking about asking for it, and then actually ask. Crina and Kirsten talk through challenges that stand in the way of asking, such as fear and the difficulty of talking about money or self worth. Our hosts encourage women to be confident and willing to navigate conversations that are not as easy as they might hope.  They provide advice on how to prepare what to say, how to schedule a meeting with the appropriate decision-maker, to work to understand the perspective of the conversation partner, and to anticipate possible objections to their proposals. Given the cost of not asking and the potential for productive workplace change after asking, Crina and Kirsten are confident that women will benefit much from actively seeking the workplace change that they desire.

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